the fact that being considered a victim is in and of itself enough to not merit sympathy is an amazing trick being played on us.
if you need help. if you need empathy. if you need people to care about what happened to you and if you name what happened to you as a terrible thing, or a crime, or an injustice then you’re just victimizing yourself and don’t deserve any of the things you need.
and of course, if you don’t ask for help then getting it can be a struggle! but asking for help means you don’t really deserve it because good victims just wait and will, eventually, be helped according to some random karmic justice that you are assured over and over again will happen because that’s how the world works.
being a victim isn’t a bad thing and is never your fault.